Incels: Septic Subculture With a Side of Coercive Cult
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Technically, I am an incel. I don’t date often, and I have sex even more infrequently. I very much want to form romantic and sexual partnerships, but I struggle to do so, even though I am smart, have solid social skills, am successful, and am reasonably attractive.
There are many men who will read this and say that my inability to find partners is because I’m angry at toxic masculinity. Because my standards are too high.
Do you hear it? These are the same things that men who cling to the incel movement complain about. They’re angry at women. They believe that they deserve a “high value” woman, never mind what they do or do not have to offer.
It can be hard to understand how men with even a single brain cell could possibly fall for the rhetoric spewed by incel influencers such as Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson.
There are a few differences here, of course, the largest of which is that when looking for a partner, I view cis men — everyone, really — as a human being. Incels do not see women the same way. I also understand that the universe does not owe us partners, which again runs counter to incel ideology. Lastly, I’m secure in myself, and would rather be alone than to compromise on the things that I want in a partner. Incels see being alone as a fate worse than death, and this is, of course, the fault of those pesky women who won’t give them what they want.
For many of us, it’s easy to see that one of these patterns of thought is healthy and rational, and that the other is, to put it kindly, loony tunes. It can be hard to understand how men with even a single brain cell could possibly fall for the rhetoric spewed by incel influencers such as Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson. Hard to understand, that is, unless we look at men like Tate and Peterson the same way we look at Jim Jones and his People’s Temple, David Koresh and the Branch Dividians, Keith Raniere of NXIVM, and Jeff and Shaleia Divine of Twin Flames Universe.
All of the above are cults, led by charismatic people who prey on the vulnerable in order to further their own agendas.
So is incel culture, and to the men vulnerable to it, this discourse is anything but looney.
Incel culture is a phenomenon labelled a “growing terrorist threat” by the U.S. Secret Service. At its core, the term “incel” refers to people, usually cis men, who feel they are unable to form romantic or sexual relationships despite wanting them. While it may seem like a relatively harmless subculture at first glance, when we look closer at how incel communities work — how they operate, the beliefs they promote, and the figures they idolize — it’s clear that in many ways, incel culture functions like a cult.
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